Certainty

But you sure as hell ain’t acting like it. I mean, are you OK? I just thought I’d check in to make sure.

Where the certainty? where’s the god damn conviction?

I know it’s hard. It’s one of the hardest things to do, really.

… to stand behind your ideas and recommendations and advice ALL THE FUCKING WAY.

… to not allow ANY wiggle room.

No “it depends.”

No “well maybe, but this or that.”

They tell you what their problem is. You give them a prescription.

That’s it.

There’s no fucking proposals. There’s no fucking options. There’s no IF, THEN.

They either do it the fucking way you said it, or they’re not going to get what they want.

There are no other ways.

Even if there were other ways, they don’t work as good as yours, god dammit.

(this is assuming you want to maximize your influence so that you can help more people. More. There is no other way to operate.)

Crushing. Fucking. Certainty.

This is binary, black and fucking white, so I don’t need to hear back about it.

The only reason you wouldn’t be absolutely certain in your recommendations is to protect yourself later when someone says it didn’t work.

That way, you have an out:  “well, I said ‘it depends,’ didn’t I?’”

Weak. As. Fuck.

Your fucking advice has the same damn chance of working whether you were certain in your delivery or not.

Really, saying the same shit with more certainty will lead to even greater results BECAUSE you were certain.

Obviously, I don’t need to tell you that this is only good if you’re giving people the best fucking recommendation you can give them. And you’re genuinely want to help them.

And ya know, don’t be a dick.

Your certainty will help them believe. And they’ll do more of the homework. With more conviction. Thereby increasing their chances of succeedin

So stop being all fucking wishy-washy. Be certain.

You know what the fuck you’re talking about. And you know whatever advice or service you’re giving to your peeps is wayyyy better than all the other horse shit out there.

If they go somewhere else, it’s just not the best.

It may be cheaper. It may be more convenient. Hell, those other dicks might even have more letters after their name.

But they ain’t the best, baby,

And I’ll tell you this:  if you’re not certain that you’re 100% right, as soon as they meet someone who is – that’s who’s going to replace you as their new. It’s New Espi. FOR SURE.

Just sayin.

NOTE: I’m NOT saying that you shouldn’t ALWAYS BE TRYING TO PROVE YOURSELF WRONG. Always look for better ways. Always get better. Always study. Always be open to changing your mind. Never fucking stop.

Just present your new findings with the same certainty, and everyone will love you. You don’t have to fucking be right all the time. You just have to really care and really, really want them to succeed.

Ry

PS – this is Day 7 of #30daysofthesefuckingemails. There’s a bunch more on ryanorrico.com… and it’s cool to see a bunch more people doing this along with me now too.

Try this shit. Doesn’t matter how many people are on your list. Just commit to writing and sending an email every day for 30 days.

Sound stupid? Shit will change your life. Just like every other god damn thing I tell you to do will.

PPS – we’re approaching the final chapters of Rabbit Hole. It’s closed, but if you ask nice and convince Kassidy, she might let you in. I recently refunded some dude for being an asshole. You can have his spot. Email her and tell her why you wanna do it:

kass@yogasexrockgod.com.

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